Stop Trying To Impress Everyone!
Do you feel like you are suppose to impress everyone?
Do you feel like everyone has an opinion and you avoid doing what you love, just to make sure their opinion of you is a good one?
Do you avoid conversations about your passion just so you don’t have to deal with a negative reaction?
I have been doing this for years!!!
Avoiding speaking up so I don’t offend anyone…
Saying what I think everyone wants to hear so I will be accepted and loved by those around me….
I have to say it is bloody exhausting, soul crushing and quite honestly a waste of time….
We are not here to keep everyone happy, that is not even possible.
We are here to live our own lives, to find our true purpose in life. To learn from our mistakes, no matter how many we make and get back up and try again.
We are here to build our knowledge and help others build theirs.
To support and understand when we don’t agree on things but accept that we all have different ideas and passions.
If we don’t learn to truly live our passion and chase our dreams we will never truly live our purpose!
We must give each other the respect to nurture and explore their true potential without judgement or prejudice. All of us are amazing and we are all beautiful, we all have a burning dream inside of us.
But most of us bury that dream under everyone else’s negative opinions fearful of being disliked or laughed at.
I spent the last 3 months of year 7 at home due to being bullied by some other girls in my class. It was horrible, I would wake up in the morning and feel sick with fear and beg my mum to let me stay home. My Dad called me a hypochondriac and there were times when I would have to do chores or be punished because he thought I was just trying to get out of school… On the last day of year 7 my mum decided to approach the girls that were giving me a hard time and ask them nicely in front of the teacher and principal if they would leave me alone so I could be with my friends. It did not go the way my mum or I and I had hoped… They were so rude and disrespectful to my mum and i calling us all sorts of horrible names and laughing at us. While the teacher and principal watched on without saying anything… We left straight away and drove to a shopping centre car park where we both sat and cried for what seemed like hours. I felt so angry and upset that young girls were so disrespectful towards my mum and I, that at that moment I decided that I was not going to talk to adults or anyone like that ever. To know that feeling was something I never wanted for anyone else. My mum being the strong woman she was pulled herself together and told me that “what goes around comes around” and that eventually they to would know that feeling!
But another thing happened at that point in my life that I was not aware of and that was my reaction to negative opinionated comments. Instead of being confident in my thoughts, questions and ideas. I started to doubt my worth and opinion and would sit back and keep my thoughts to myself. I became unsure of who I was and if I could do anything in life, I started to try and be like others to impress people, I wanted to be popular so I started hanging out with the popular girls at my new school and I became a bully to fit in…. and it seemed to work, but on the inside I felt torn and sick still. I hated myself and kept searching for something or someone to make me feel amazing but I just found more trouble and pain. I started smoking, taking drugs and drinking. I would go out partying all night which had my Mum worried sick but I didn’t care. Looking back it was a horrible thing to do to her but I thought I was truly living my life my way…
But eventually I realized that was not what I wanted I just wanted to be loved and cared for and part of me knew I was here for greater things…
I met my husband not long after and he changed my life, I stopped smoking, stopped partying and started living a bit healthier. I had a new focus and that was impressing him and it was great I started feeling good, hanging out with him was all I wanted to do. I could not imagine life without him. He made me smile and made me feel special. After a few years I again got a bit more interested in health and joined a gym, started learning about food, additives and preservatives. I got a bit overwhelmed with all the information I was learning and gave up on it. It just seemed to hard to be so focused on all that small stuff…
Then I had children and when my youngest was 3 yrs old I was introduced to the idea that food is medicine and that what we eat can really affect our health. He had been sick since he was 3 months old and I knew I had to try something different. So I started to learn about health, food, gut, toxins and lifestyle.
I had a few ah ha moments very early in my health journey and I knew then that this was what I was here for….
My purpose in life was to first heal my son and myself and then help others learn and heal themselves. I got so wound up in it that I became highly opinionated and intrusive about how others should be eating and living… Looking back now I would have been offended by myself so its no surprise that friends started to avoid me and even block me on social media. It hurt at the time but for me it was another turning point in my life. It brought me back to that day in the shopping centre car park with my mum and the thought that I never wanted to make people feel like I did that day. I did not mean to be offensive or make people feel bad, so I started working on myself by focusing on personal development and educating myself about what I was passionate about.
For me knowledge became humbling and exciting because it was something I truly loved but I knew that if I became good at it I could truly help people to heal and feel amazing.
My journey over the last 7 years has been, exciting, stressful, empowering, and inspiring. I have learnt so much about myself and the people around me. I have healed friendships and become confident in the person that I am and I know I my purpose in life. I know I still have a lot to learn and I have a lot to give. But for me giving, helping and learning are the three things that make me feel alive.
So If I offend you with my commitment to my purpose and passion in life, I am not sorry…
If you knew the person I have been…
To become the person I am…
You would know that my struggle is real.
I only ever want to help people find another way to live life well. You can not keep doing the same thing and expect a different outcome. Its called growing, learning and evolving. I love and appreciate those that accept me for all my faults but all my good things too.
If you want to change, grow, learn and evolve to become a goal setter and chase your passion and live your purpose I would love to help you. Join my FB Page https://www.facebook.com/Glow.HL/ watch my live posts, learn about goal setting, vision boards, motivation, gut healing and living a life you love.
In the words of Steve Jobs: “Have The Courage To Follow Your Heart And Intuition, They Somehow Know What You Want To Become.”
In Good Health